A person’s emotional being is like an ocean. The people in your life are separated into three different categories.
You have the sailors: they won’t touch the water. They opt to stay inside the boat. These people are your acquaintances, or “surface” friends, and they never make it deep. You then have the snorkelers. These are the friends who want to go deep, but don’t have the emotional capacity to carry the pressure and weight. If they make an attempt, they either drown or are forced to go back to the surface for oxygen. Finally, let’s talk about the deep sea divers. These are the people who stay with you through storms and violent waters, and they aren’t afraid to dive to the darkest parts of the ocean floor: they stay with you, in the water, through the worst times. They aren’t afraid to call out your bullshit. They’re the people who are there for you no matter what happens.
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Soon you’ll be happy...? Yeah... cause that helps me right now! That softens the heart ache and dries up the tears! When someone finds themselves at their lowest point in life, many people say this statement with every good intent.
I received a message from an old friend tonight! It reads: Growth requires discomfort. If you stick with what is comfortable, you’re giving up any hope of surprising yourself, of finding greatness, of having the best experiences human life has to offer. So next time when heart ache wrenches your inner soul and leaves you feeling hopeless, instead of sitting there trying to think about ways to try and improve your emotional wellbeing and spirit, sit with those feelings! Embrace the discomfort. Your long term personal growth depends on it! Life isn’t meant to be easy! Lay your head every night and think about the lessons your soul has learnt. Yes life serves some interesting blows as well as some amazing highs! Live each day! Live each moment... love each moment! Soon you’ll be happy, excited, sad, disappointed, enthusiastic... lessons for your soul! Remember, try to give a little and get a little! Make each day count! I was having a drink with a close friend yesterday afternoon and we were talking about how life will give us clues if we are on the right path. The right path will be easy. And this got me thinking... what makes one path better than the other? Is one a good choice and the other not the right one? Yes I agree, the right path will make for a more harmonious and balanced life. But what if we are sometimes meant to travel down what we call the 'wrong' path in order to learn our lessons? By no means am I suggesting that we deliberately choose a path that intentionally hurts another or even ourselves. I'm wondering if the path we once chose (which brought tears and sadness) was not about being the wrong choice or path, but exactly what our soul needed at that point in time. Life is full of many pathways and maybe the path that one freely chooses is already preconceived? Life certainly is a lot easier when we look closely for the signs, listen carefully for the whispers and feel with our intuition. Life becomes harmonious and each decision is in rhythm to the natural flow of life. Then I question, what lessons is the soul learning? Or maybe the soul is entering a new chapter or domain of thinking. Whatever it may be, the path we are all on at this point in time is one we have chosen. We were presented with an opportunity whether it be in our relationships or work, and decided to follow that path. What comes along on that path is neither good or bad, it just is.
Cleansing the bitter taste of life from your soulDivorce surfaces many horrible feelings and emotions, revealing thoughts and behaviours one never thought they'd have towards themselves or about this beautiful life we live in!
No one ever really wants to be divorced! It's like biting into an onion, resisting and not wanting to for the life of god because you know what's going to happen, yet you know that you must take the plunge in order to release yourself from the toxic world in which you live and breathe! There were many reasons why I held on so tightly, trying... hoping... praying... yet once I bit hard into that onion, that was it! No going back! Yes it left a bitter taste in my soul... quite eye watering and disgusting indeed! Anger, sadness, resentment, guilty, back to anger.... the cycle continued! Looking back, I still to this day do not know how I even held down a full time job and went through that turmoil. So then I made the decision. Buy a one way ticket to the other side of the world! Press reset on life! Move to another country. Pack my bags and go! (3 days after my property settlement went through) Eat, Pray, Love. An adventure... trying to start again and wash away the dark cloud that had hovered over me for years! Renewing who I was as a woman, discovering my strengths and overcoming my fears. Quite literally, washing away all of the tears and bitterness within my soul to start my next chapter! An adventure I was so very blessed to share with my best friend. I remember I would constantly play a beautiful song by Enya which actually really resonated with me... "Who can say if your love grows As your heart chose Only time And who can say where the road goes Where the day flows, only time Who knows? Only time" Time and adventure heals your heart. Having the time and a deep insight of your choices and lessons in life, cleanses your soul. Being bitter and unforgiving is something one carries with them! And boy is that exhausting!!!! Releasing and letting go is like giving yourself wings to soar with the highest vibrations. Being bitter will imprison you. Don't let the world make you a hard person. Let your true beauty from within shine brightly! I'm so angry with the injustice I have received over the years from family, friends and relatives. Yes, this letting go bullshit really isn't working for me at the moment. I agree, carrying around anger will make a heavy heart and serves no purpose. Maybe it's not anger? Maybe it's another level of healing I'm going through.... understanding my life lessons? But at the moment, this is where I'm at! I'm reading a book at the moment and it talks about questioning 1. Why you are angry? and once you find that answer, asking yourself 2. Does it even really matter? Well yes it does! Because everything that has happened all comes down to this... It reflects me as a person! As a "strong, independent and intelligent" woman, I allowed this to happen to me! I allowed myself to be disrespected and continued to love and give time to these people! (And this includes family, friends as well as ex laws!) These were not one off incidents where I'm being emotional... these are ongoing years of bullshit and disrespect! I somehow overlooked their bullshit, thinking I was the one with the issue. When in fact, people were only really manipulating the situation, twisting and turning it and playing on my good spirit, saying I was 'being too sensitive'! This is what hurts! I remember for 6 months I sat talking with a therapist on a weekly basis who in the last 2 visits prior to me leaving for London, pointed this out to me! I was gobsmacked! I hadn't even realised how naive I had been but couldn't understand why she had just pointed this out to me when my therapy was coming to an end. Clearly I was ready to deal with this and moving to London made me really evaluate and question relationships I had with people. (As my Guru in London said, "coming here was like zooming out like a camera to think about who I have back in my life"! So very very true! I'm extremely apprehensive these days letting anyone into my life! People (yes including family!!!) are really only into themselves. Words are cheap! Watch someone's actions! They are much more telling! Sit back and observe. I continue to be my loving carefree self but these days in a much more guarded way because people will use and abuse! They take advantage of good people, maybe because of their own insecurities or ego? Who knows. Not my problem. So whether this is unspiritual (if that's a word?) or part of my healing journey, I have to accept that there are many injustices in this world! And some people will never even see their wrong or apologise for it! That's a difficult pill to swallow! Possibly this is one of my life's lesson! #healing #journey #noapology #notmyproblem #divorce “The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” – Buddha Living in the present means that your awareness is completely centered on the here and now. You are not worrying about the future or thinking about the past. Since my divorce, I struggled with letting go of the past and a great deal of healing has taken place. My journey through London was a grounding experience where I felt centred and focused with wounds slowly healing. Even when returning to Australia, I was grounded in the present with a mindset of moving forward. It's funny how when we are mindful and live in the present, life seems to take charge and we have balance. Lately I've been feeling a little rushed. Off balance! Always chasing my tail, exhausted and wanting to sleep. I feel for the past 3 months I have been far too focused on future goals and not really being present in the moment. Yes, it's extremely important to have short and long term goals (particularly at this point in my career) however I'm reminded about the importance of being grounded in the present. Being mindful of today and enjoying the lessons life is serving at this point in time.
So today I've made a decision. I'm fully committed to focus my energy on being in the moment! Relaxing and letting go! Have goals but enjoying today! Loving and living my life today. Being in the moment! You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you.
True power is sitting back and observing everything with logic; true power is restaint. If words can control you that means everyone can control you. Just breathe and allow and allow things to pass. Be true! Sound simple? Yes, in an ideal world 'being true' sounds really straight forward and easy!
To start with, for one to be true to their own self, one needs to know thine self! In life, we have all of these labels... wife, mother, friend, cousin, teacher, aunty... is this really who we are? These labels bring much comfort and love but for me, 2.5 years ago I was struggling to understand who I actually was! My heart was broken! As a person, I was broken! I had all of these labels but deep down I knew I had to skim back all of these labels and layers in order to find the real me again! And that is just the start! Being true to yourself is a daily effort! We have all been absolutely blessed with this beauty called life and we all must avoid the temptation of falling victim to life's struggles! The days that one little thing can get you down. The days that things don't go the way we want. The days that you just want to crawl back into bed and shut the world out. Being true is a mindset! Live, laugh and love each day with everything you do! Find your balance! Know your limits! Maintain a healthy mindset! Let go! Forgive! Embrace who you really are! Fall in love with yourself! Be you! Be true! #divorce #newbeginning #true #enjoyyourlife |
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